Custom Wedding Vows
Writing your own wedding vows is a very thoughtful and romantic thing to do. It can be overwhelming thinking of spilling your heart out in front of so many people, but your wedding is a time for others to witness your love and celebrate with you.
Here are a few tips for writing your own vows:
Plan Ahead: Whether you are the procrastinating type or not, leaving your wedding vows until the last minute is a bad option. You should plan ahead and really thinking about you want to say. When you speak those vows out-loud, many people will be listening, but more importantly your spouse-to-be will be taking in everything you say-as a seal of your commitment. Start writing out your thoughts and ideas of what you want to say early, that way when the big day draws near, you will be more than ready.
Research: Take your own personal inventory of the things that you love about your spouse-to-be, and write a list out. Then spend some time reading love poems and quotes to help you draw inspiration. Writing your own vows can be challenging, but there is no right or wrong way to do it if you are speaking from your heart.
Practice: Even the most confident speaker should practice their speech before delivering it. You may be feeling totally ready, but try out the vows on some of your most trusted friends. Allow them to give you some honest, but heartfelt feedback. This will help you prepare for the real thing on your wedding day.
Nerves: If you are feeling extra nervous about reciting your vows, talk with your spouse-to-be about it openly. Sometimes having things built up inside causes even more unnecessary stress. If you tear up during the vows or stumble over your words a little, no one will care. Just look into the eyes of your loved one and speak straight from your heart.(John P Brink:Ezine)
Top 10 tips for writing your own wedding vows
7 Ways Your Wedding Vows Can Move You From Make-Believe to Magic and Support Your Perfect Marriage
Too many articles about wedding vows suggest that you look at poetry to find wedding vows for your wedding. Even if you’re a poet, your wedding vows need to be pretty concrete and down to earth. High flights of fancy (and, no, not all poetry can be called high flights of fancy!) are not what is going to make your marriage work.
You don’t want a make-believe marriage. Happily ever after is powerfully short on details. You want the fussing and fuming and making up and laughing and sharing that define real marriages. The little birds that always sing in Disney cartoons are annoying in your bedroom. You want your fabulous partner with all her/his warts and beauty. You want to make the hard work of marriage look easy. You need to break down the tasks of marriage and practice each individual ask until it looks completely natural. Make your wedding vows reflect those little tasks and the whole world (and maybe even you!) will think that you have magical gifts in keeping promises.
Your wedding vows need to do more than sound beautiful on your wedding day. Poetry is lovely, and your vows can be poetic, but they need to support your dreams and keep moving you from make-believe to magic. They need to Be relevant to who you are. Most people getting married are just folks. Most of you don’t talk in iambic pentameter – and that’s ok! Don’t promise one other to offer each other a cotton candy world, offer one another companionship and support and passion.
- Break down the work the two of you will need to do to get to the promised land of happy and healthily ever after.
- Be specific, not fanciful. It’s lovely that at this moment you desire to bring your beloved flowers every single day, but will you bring one another a cup of tea when you have a cold and feel lousy?
- Promise to do that work. No wedding vow is complete without a commitment to stay the course and do the little tasks that make up a marriage.
- Use language that makes sense to you both. What do you call one another? How do you name one another when you talk about each other? If it’s not respectful, stop right now. Being publicly respectful of your partner is a great way to be privately respectful of one another. Wedding vows should be formal, but formal in language you use.
- Be the same vows for both of you. Agree on what the vows mean, and use the same words. The more language the two of you have that is shared, the better able you will be to weather the storms life will offer. Sharing and agreeing on goals help marriages survive.
- Promise one another eternity. If you don’t name your goal, you’re far less likely to get there. Claim what you want. Talk about why this relationship has all the things it needs to claim the eternal gold ring! (Anne Keeler Evans:Ezine)
Why waste a great opportunity to help yourself get what you want. Craft great wedding vows that deliver what you need to move from make-believe to magic. Happy ever after isn’t just for fairytales!
Bottom Line?: Give your relationship the chance it deserves to succeed wildly, against all odds! After all, you deserve it. Your relationship deserves it!
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December 15, 2011 5:25 am
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